It feels so icky at first, but once you get past that, it has been the most liberating thing I’ve done in a long time. I realized that when I go out in public, at the grocery store or the gym or whatever, I tend to avoid any eye contact with strange men. I can feel their eyes on me, but I have become really skilled at pretending I don’t, and always looking at things behind them, below them, above them to avoid acknowledging their stare.
And I realized that my motivation for that is because it makes me SO uncomfortable to be stared at like a zoo animal, and because I don’t want them to be encouraged to approach me. And I realized that that is bullshit. So I just did it. I walked into the grocery store, eyes up. Man starts looking and I looked straight back, slack faced, no expression. He reacted very weirdly: held the eye contact for too long, then realized it and looked away, but then looked right back and smiled. I just kept staring back and he stopped smiling and turned around and walked away. It was fucking amazing. I highly recommend it, marvelous feeling.
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